Growing up, I always worried about how everyone thought of me. I was very aware of other people’s opinions, and I shaped my life around those opinions. I remember losing a fight in high school and feeling like everyone thought that I was a wimp. Shortly after, I started working out and putting on this tough guy persona. I made sure that if I were ever going to get in a fight again, I would win. I did, and I did, but that’s not the point of this dialogue. I am demonstrating just how much other people’s opinions formed who I was.

For me, external self-awareness was the default, and I never understood the value of who I thought I was. As a result, I suffered from issues of self-esteem and self-worth. It wasn’t until I was able to consciously address my insecurities and doubts that I was able to progress internally and build a healthier life for myself.

In every post, I like to give actionable advice that has real effects and can be applied today. My advice for you today is to reflect on yourself objectively. Try not to add bias or unnecessary feelings into your reflection. Whether it be an internal or external self-awareness session; try to focus on truths and objectively come to conclusions that won’t put you down but help you understand what you need to do.

It’s hard; I know it’s hard! That slump that you’re in right now is difficult. It hurts, I know it hurts! It so bad you don’t even want to think about it. “You’ll get through it,” they tell me. Quick, let me grab my disguise for the day, so no one knows I am broken. I use my mask as a tool to hide my depression. My main pieces of equipment, an empty smile; followed by a practiced laugh and rehearsed lines like “I’m fine.” “But really……. I’m fine…..”

Better than you know, let me break this down for you.

When your body and mind is in deep pain, heartbreak, depression; it is a call to action. Your body is telling you “Hey, it’s time to grow.” Most people try to hide this pain. Most people are scared to face their demons. Don’t be like most people. Your body and your mind are calling out, screaming, “It’s time to grow”! The call to action is there, but you have to decide whether you take the opportunity to develop or run. It will not be easy, but it will be worth it! Face your fears head on, persist with faith, and destroy all the negative thoughts that have imprisoned you. “I am not a victim.” “I am stronger than my problems.” When you do this, you will achieve greatness beyond what you thought possible.

What is the solution?

You want to know where the solution is. This world is filled with people looking for the solution. They look inside bottles of alcohol. They look inside prescription drug containers. They look inside other people only to figure out that everyone is in the same fight. Never would they ever look inside themselves. Inside of you, there is greatness beyond your understanding. You, my friend, are here for a reason. If you want to break those chains that are locking down your greatness, here is what you must do.

The solution.

You are the solution. Listen to your heart and do the things that you love. Live every day like you are on a mission to fulfill your purpose. You know why people don’t get things done? People don’t get things done because it’s not important. They don’t live their lives with urgency. They see a job as just a job. Oh and money? In their opinion money is not a topic to be discussed. Purposeful people see money as a tool to fulfill their purpose. Everything revolves around their mission to LIVE their dream. Do you want to come out of your slump? Look inside of yourself. Learn what you love, hate, and live for. The solution is inside of you. Use every waking minute to find that purpose and once you have; use the rest of the time you have left on this earth to fulfill it.

“It is in the darkness where it is much easier to find your light.”